The way I view friendship

If I have friends, I always make it certain to care of them the best way I can. That is how I see myself as a friend. I think friendship is really about caring and trusting and assuring that whatever the circumstances maybe, you'd be there for each other. It must be a mutual relationship in order to work.



Friendship takes time to develop, unlike a mere acquaintance. You can never say someone is already your friend after meeting him or her once in a party. It takes more meetings and chats to culture a feeling of trust and care.



I normally initiate a talk to collect my so-called "friendsters". That initiation will determine the outcome of a probable follow-up chat. If I sense that we don't match in character, although it is shallow a reason to conclude that very moment, I usually don't mind just giving a smile, shaking hands and saying goodbye.



Most of the time, that system works. Some other times, though, it doesn't. You only discover after few days or weeks or months that the other party, in truth, is only putting a facade to fool you of his or her friendship. That in reality, he or she doesn't like you to be around with him or her.

That hurts. Extremely hurts! Don't you think so?

The signs will tell me -- when I begin to detect unusual, if not, totally unacceptable behavior -- if I have to let go of the friendship or not. Signs like, he or she tries to avoid you, or talk to you, or ditch your company. Or even tells lies to you or does things to lose your trust.

We hate that to happen. I hate that to happen. But it happens sometimes.

When it happens, be ready to let go!

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